Because I've read quite a number of posts others have posted about their mother, or about mothers in general, my mind is directed to think about my own mother, quite inevitably...
Hence, this post...
I didn't plan to post about my mother, well, for one because I don't actually "celebrate" mother's day (I don't even know it was mother's day until the fatcat mentioned it in one of my recent post where I mentioned my parents, and it obviously become obvious when I see the flood posts on xanga related to the occasion), and secondly because, um.. I don't really plan what to post about anyways.. lol..
So just being one of the sheep in the herd, I'll just go with the flow...
I guess I'll dedicate this post to the mothers in my life... One is my lovely mom, and the second one is my lovely wife...
So.. What can I say about my mom.. It's hard to say anything, really, because it will always always be an understatement... Despite never know how to say and express it to her, I do hope she knows how much I love her...
She got married to my dad at a relatively young age, at 19, and I was born to this world a year later... So she became a mom at the early stage of her university life.. I think that's probably one of the reason why she never started any career, as she straight away began a full housewife life from there on... Plus, she was on full scholarship anyways, without any debt to pay from her university years (similar with my dad).. So financially, my parent have the freedom to choose their path without the financial burden as one of the factors...
She's such a compassionate and loving mom, nurturing, and whatever else that are positive traits that one can say about a mom... Her active role in cheering up my dad whenever he is stressed from work etc is also something that leave a positive vibe on us the kids..
She like to tease my dad too, from what I can remember... I remembered one time when someone mistaken her and one of my sister as sisters, she quickly use it to tease my dad, saying how youthfull others thinks of her, and whatnot..
She definitely have a way to make you calm... Whenever I'm stressed out or whatever, when I called home, and talked to her, she definitely makes me to be calm and relaxed, and more positive, by the end of the conversation...
She is always youthful... I have to be reminded of her age to realize that she is already 50+ of age.. Not saying that is old or anything, but.. Being around her, I'd never associate that number with her... Not sure if that makes any sense..
I believe the positive energy that she has definitely has affected all of her kids, and we are forever thankful for having her as our mom...
I love you mom...
And for the mother of my kids, my wife... Well, what can I say... Without her, I'm not complete (taking the cheesy line from some movies)...
Time sure flies, and it seems like just seconds, from the moment you first met the love of your life, to marrying her, having her as your wife, honeymoon, the first kid came around, and then the second, and then the third, and then the fourth... and counting, lol...
Just like my mom, she got married to me in her student life (though already in her third year in university), and had our first son near her finals period... She actually took some of her final exam papers in the hospital.. Not that she had any complication, but I think there's a cultural difference in how women is treated after giving labor in the east compared to the west, where the women are not advised to walk that much, etc.. Anyways, thankfully the lack of preparation for her exam etc did not affect her results, and she graduated successfully...
Actually the first glimpse of "motherhood" that I see from her was about one year earlier... Our first child was not her first pregnancy.. With her first, she had miscarriage.. And during consoling her in the aftermath, I sense her feeling at that time as she has just lost a baby, or a child.. Of course I have to confort her, to assure her it was not her fault etc (because she's quite an active girl, and she feels like she didn't took enough care that lead to the miscarriage)..
For our last daughter (so far), I finally have the chance to be at her side in the labor room... It so happened that despite planning to do that from the first one, it never happened.. For the first child, the number of labor room that allow the husband to be with the wife is limited, and all are already occupied.. So I just waited outside.. For the second, I sent her to a regular checkup, I went down to buy some food, I came back up to bring the food to her, the doctor said to me to wait a bit, because they are washing the baby... That moment was, like, OMGWHAT???... For the third... Well.. It's not how we have planned it, to say the least.. Because the first was induced (as it was passed the expected date), the second was whatever that is, so we never actually have any real experience in knowing the signs indicating that it's coming... So when my wife said, do you think this is the sign? I replied, I dunno, do you think this is the sign? And before we know it, we didn't manage to get ready to go to the hospital, and our third child was delivered in our bedroom.. That was really an experience I wish not to happen again, haha.. I don't even know what the heck is going on, what to do... Anyways, so for the fourth one, just when my wife said, "I think this...", I straight away get the kids, get them ready, and take my wife and kids to the hospital pronto...
Being beside my wife as the mother of our kids, I think I have a deeper appreciation of all the hard works that my mom had to put up with raising us seven kids.. I only have four as of now, and it is already something of a task... Each kids with their own character and behavior, it can sometimes makes you go "Urrrgghhhhh!!!!".. The fact that I never remember my mom losing it, says a lot about her.. And my wife, yeah, she's trying her best, and with how we are coping with the kids I also start to imagine the role my dad must have played all those years (mostly behind the scene), to keep my mom sane, haha... I think it surely would be ridiculously hard if the husband is not supportive all the way..
And yeah, as I've mentioned in recent posts, with the fact that I'm now thousand miles away from them, and already for nearly a year now, I could only imagine the hard work that my wife have been doing with the kids... She does sometimes message me or call me, to hear my voice comforting and supporting her, and sometimes I'm not sensitive enough to lend that support that she needs.. I mean, because of the 7 hours difference in time zone, the time where both of us are awake is the time when I'm most probably in the lab, so, in my mind I do think that she should understand my situation, but, perhaps, I'm the one that should be understanding her needs right now...
I do miss the kids... I'm happy to see how they are developing, from what I can see from the pictures and videos.. I think my kids living under the same roof with some of their cousins, does also help them grow from the interactions... Plus, their granny (my mother in law) is also great at helping shaping the kids (she raised great kids, including a great daughter in my wife)..
Hmmm...
I believe great mothers will definitely lead to great society, and a great world..
I'll end this post by saying my appreciation to all the mothers that have an impact in my life (my mom, mother in law, my wife, etc), and all the mothers that have made any impact to anyone at all... Your job is perhaps the most underrated job of all, and we should show more appreciation to all of you...
Thank you very much for everything...