if you're looking for them, meaning, waiting/searching for Mr/Miss Perfect, you are NOT gonna find them. they're only right if you WORK for it. almost anybody can be right for you, if you work together. my SO isn't my perfect match, but what makes us good is the fact that we work together and resolve our problems and MAKE ourselves fit. that's what a good relationship is about. so... yeah. EVERYBODY has a Mr/Miss Right, but you can pretty much mould them.

I don't really believe in "right ones" and "true loves," because that makes it sound mystical. However, if you're with someone you feel you shouldn't be with, someone who's not the right person for you to spend your life with, someone who doesn't fit, then you shouldn't be with them. For instance, if I wasn't with my current boyfriend, I wouldn't want to be with anybody at all. He fits and he's right, and no one else could fit like that. If I found someone who did, then great, but I currently don't know anyone like that, and having had that kind of thing, it makes anything less seem not worthwhile.

But that's just me. I can't really judge anyone who decides to be with someone just because they're there. As long as they don't lie to the person, I don't see any problem with it.

never, ever settle.  never.  ever.

I lean towards the second option there. Life is too short, go and live a little.

It depends on the person, not everyone wants the right person right now. Some people just want to enjoy life and have fun before actually settling down. I don't necessarily think you should go out looking for someone because like the first commenter said you're not going to find them. There is no right person because everyone has different qualities that they want in someone.

I guess I got the right one -he's kindof weird though

Almost anyone can be the right one if you WORK at it. I can't stand the ideals of the people who look at some of the relationships around them and think "Oh, I want that, someone like him/her. What they have is so nice." And yet they have these guys or girls standing right there in front of them! interested! But they're "not the right one" because of this or that. What they fail to realize is that the relationships they are fantasizing over have been working at it! Those two people have gone through the same crap as everyone else, and have gotten over obstacles and still are. No one just pops out prince charming. You grow into that if you work at it.

A lot of folks say it's all about compromise and meeting in the middle. If you were to take a protractor and put a person at the end of it, the truth of it is not them meeting in the middle, 90 degrees, the truth is making a complete 180, unconditional self-sacrifice, even if the other person isn't all the way there yet.
That is love.

But people are afraid. They don't want to get hurt. If you're afraid of getting hurt, you won't live.
And some are lamentably too concerned with themselves. They have the wrong ideas of love.

I thought you picked them by going for the one that's within range of your club swing. If you can bop her with the club, she's yours.

Waiting too long is a big waste in reality. Settle is quite a good way around.

@Peridot21 - 

Amen!!

how would you know who's the "right one" (if there is one), if you don't give anyone a shot because you don't think they're the "right one" at that present moment?

@Jenzies - 

exactly.

Settling is wrong. Cause you settle and "right one" could walk passed, thinking that 'oh she/he is a relationship' and you lost the "right one". Also the "wrong one" could think you are the "right one" and miss there "right one".
Dont settle, its misleading and someone is always hurt.

Although it's different for everyone, I go by never settle! I've seen it ruin too many lives.

@Jillycarmel - 

=P that made me laugh.

sicko, you really want to find the girl, don't you, the kate beckinsale?

my advice: stop worrying about it. it will happen. and i do believe that everyone is destined for someone else. so, if i am right (humor me), then just sit back B)

I ain't settling regardless. If prince charming decides to come into my life and knock my door down, cool. If not, I am happy living with myself.

Settling just makes life a horror movie in live time. It never works and everyone is miserable. I looked for the 'right one' for years, had literally traveled the world, and finally gave up. When I did, there he was. I'll never settle again.

I think the best thing to do is just live your life and if you meet someone who you think is "the right one" then that's kool and if you don't then that's kool too. At least you can say you lived your life.

I don't believe in soul mates or that there is just one right person for everybody... there are too many variables. That being said ... I'm trying to find a balance between not looking at all and playing the field. Either option has the potential for pain - the goal is to maximize your quality of life while minimizing the agonizing retributions. I can't play just to play - I'm too much of a realist. Yet - I'm also beginning to see that simply avoiding it - is not the way to go, either. BALANCE, ftw!